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           Throughout human history, we all have formed bonds with one another in different ways so each pair can conceive the next generation.  Certain relationships can be formed when couples meet by chance or are arranged by others.  They get to know each other for a certain amount of time until they feel comfortable enough to bring it to the next level by performing marriage to make it official.   Now things have changed from firstly meeting in person towards meeting online.[1]

Online dating, of what most people would know, is simply a name given towards the process of meeting and socializing with other people on the web.  The term is inaccurate since people don’t really date over the web; they use it to make contact with each other.  The term would be more of ‘online introductions’, but it really doesn’t sound that catchy.  It does have its challenges since it is different from dating offline.[2]

Dating offline wouldn’t be as awkward as most people would realize from meeting them for the first time without using computers to meet them there.  If you would meet online first, you would sometimes have an odd feeling towards them at first and not trust them for a certain extent of time.  But things would be normal to meet offline first so there wouldn’t be that problem at all.

            With online dating, people put down their basic information from: ethnicity, hair and eye color, height/weight, etc.  They would soon put down detailed information of talking about their lives and whom they want to meet.  They do this for different reasons depending if it is: making new friends, finding someone to go out with, finding new sexual partners, or finding someone you would like to maybe marry one day.  The majority of the people write down their information truthfully hoping they can meet that “right person for me” and live happily ever.  But most people would falsify their information on certain criteria so they can raise their chances of getting in bed with the other person.  They would sometimes falsify their hobbies towards not using a real photo of themselves so that event could happen.

            Most men, who are straight, go online to meet women who are “youthful and beautiful” that would fit their criteria of similar interests and sometimes would like some differences as well.  They would also prefer women to have subordinate-type jobs from a secretary or an assistant so the men can feel in-charge and in control unlike some men would like women to be in an executive type position being in-charge.  Women, however, want similar interests, but they would want men who are well educated and earns enough money.  It is so the women can feel happy that they won’t have to deal with financial problems later on in life.[3]

            When each person views the other’s profile online, they feel interested in meeting and message them via email or through the dating site.  They come up with a message that could try and speak towards the one person they would like to meet and try and stand out from the others.  Not a lot of them are not that great since they would have a hard time trying to figure out of what to say to them to get them interested in wanting to respond towards your message.  When they do get ahold of each other by messaging a lot, it does tend to not work out that well.  Since most conversations would lag on and not be an immediate response while talking in person would make the responses quicker and more efficient.[4][5]

            Once they decide to meet, it can be a huge problem at certain occasions since it can prove if the other person is truthful or not on their information that the person might be the person who they were online.  They can appear to be really cute/hot online and be a great match for them, but they could actually be not of who they appear to be in real life.  In reality they can be a complete pervert that would want just sex, be a criminal that would be a huge problem towards them, or would be the complete opposite of who they were online.[6] 

            Online dating can be useful for most people who have a hard time trying to go out with certain people in the real world.  It isn’t that great since you would have an equally hard time trying to go out on dates since a whole lot of people are very picky on the dating sites.  They have their own things of which they want for their potential partner to be and it can be all a lie depending on the person.  It doesn’t really matter at all since so many of those sites are useless.  It should be a last option for certain people who are desperate for getting into a relationship and to me it’s a complete waste of time on some cases.

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[1]  "Dating." Wikipedia, the Free Encyclopedia <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating>

[2]  "Online Dating | Everyone’s Guide to Online Dating | Wellbeing | How To | Read Free Online Books at How To." <http://www.howto.co.uk/wellbeing/everyones-gudie-to-online-dating/>

[3]  "Dating." Wikipedia, the Free Encyclopedia <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating>

[4]  Anderson, Christopher. "Online Stud, Offline Dud - Dating Relationship & Intimacy | Click By Lavalife - Dating Sex and Romance Articles for Singles." Click by Lavalife | Romance Online Dating Sex Advice Horoscope - Single & Dating <http://click.lavalife.com/intimate/feature/article/Online-Stud-Offline Dud/w6Zo/118939/p1>

[5]  "Dating Online vs. Dating Offline." Dating Advice, Dating Inspiration, and Dating <http://www.dating-inspiration-online.com/dating-online.html>

[6]  "Online Dating Vs. Offline Dating." Online Dating Tips And Advice - How To Find Love On The Internet <http://www.onlinelovehunt.com/online-dating-vs-offline-dating.html>

Intimacy is getting pretty odd.

Hello, my name is Jordan Best and this is my first year attending the University of Utah after transferring from Salt Lake Community College.  I am currently studying to be a Photographer and hoping that I would have a great time doing so.  This is my first blog even though I do have experience on forums, but nothing on a regular blog.  It is fascinating that intimacy is becoming an odd experience for a lot of people. Its just that it has changed so much of how people try to get into it and it wasn’t so complicated back then while its hard to do so today.

For a long time, intimacy can be touchy at times between different people.  Before the Internet was used by the public; men and women would call each other to see if they would wanted to hang out or go out on dates, have a good time, and they would feel that it would be alright to have sex.  To a lot of people, of all generations, it is much of a hassle with the Internet changing so much of how we date and how intimacy has changed. The Internet is starting to make a lot of people antisocial to a certain extent, and they have a hard time talking to each other from time to time.  Some of us would be nervous and not able to communicate with the opposite sex.  This can prevent the chance of going on dates and being intimate with someone.  

With dating sites, each of us interested in a relationship with someone would either have no luck in the real world with someone or just trying to see if it would work out with them.  With the profiles put on sites, most members tell the truth while others can put false information so that they can get into another person’s pants.  This can bring up people’s social defenses so they become too cautious of others and not want to date anyone.  I am even a part of one of the dating sites, but I am not like those men who want just sex.  The real purpose of these sites is to find others with similar interests and get along with them so you can build a good relationship.

Others don’t trust these sites at all, so they focus on talking in person and hope they can be friends at first to maybe going out with them.  They may know them from work, school, friends, or meeting the first time at different places by striking up a conversation to get things started.  This way can be helpful since there wouldn’t be much awkwardness if you were meeting online. It’s just that they wouldn’t really know of what to expect from the other person if they kept looking at their information online.  With not using it, you would just do as you do on a daily basis by talking to a regular person.  It all depends if you are able if you are able to communicate with them without the odd cheat sheet that is provided online.

The ways of intimacy has changed a lot; from knowing the person as friends, to wanting something more by from meeting online and being nervous and screwing up later on.  Most people try to balance the two by chatting online for some time in order to feel comfortable enough to meet in person and carry on a relationship from there.  Others do it the other way around by knowing them in person without an online connection and having a good relationship that could carry it on online if they are traveling. It does get complicated thinking about it, but this is why it gets me interested.  How do others get into intimacy?