Hello, my name is Jordan Best and this is my first year attending the University of Utah after transferring from Salt Lake Community College. I am currently studying to be a Photographer and hoping that I would have a great time doing so. This is my first blog even though I do have experience on forums, but nothing on a regular blog. It is fascinating that intimacy is becoming an odd experience for a lot of people. Its just that it has changed so much of how people try to get into it and it wasn’t so complicated back then while its hard to do so today.
For a long time, intimacy can be touchy at times between different people. Before the Internet was used by the public; men and women would call each other to see if they would wanted to hang out or go out on dates, have a good time, and they would feel that it would be alright to have sex. To a lot of people, of all generations, it is much of a hassle with the Internet changing so much of how we date and how intimacy has changed. The Internet is starting to make a lot of people antisocial to a certain extent, and they have a hard time talking to each other from time to time. Some of us would be nervous and not able to communicate with the opposite sex. This can prevent the chance of going on dates and being intimate with someone.
With dating sites, each of us interested in a relationship with someone would either have no luck in the real world with someone or just trying to see if it would work out with them. With the profiles put on sites, most members tell the truth while others can put false information so that they can get into another person’s pants. This can bring up people’s social defenses so they become too cautious of others and not want to date anyone. I am even a part of one of the dating sites, but I am not like those men who want just sex. The real purpose of these sites is to find others with similar interests and get along with them so you can build a good relationship.
Others don’t trust these sites at all, so they focus on talking in person and hope they can be friends at first to maybe going out with them. They may know them from work, school, friends, or meeting the first time at different places by striking up a conversation to get things started. This way can be helpful since there wouldn’t be much awkwardness if you were meeting online. It’s just that they wouldn’t really know of what to expect from the other person if they kept looking at their information online. With not using it, you would just do as you do on a daily basis by talking to a regular person. It all depends if you are able if you are able to communicate with them without the odd cheat sheet that is provided online.
The ways of intimacy has changed a lot; from knowing the person as friends, to wanting something more by from meeting online and being nervous and screwing up later on. Most people try to balance the two by chatting online for some time in order to feel comfortable enough to meet in person and carry on a relationship from there. Others do it the other way around by knowing them in person without an online connection and having a good relationship that could carry it on online if they are traveling. It does get complicated thinking about it, but this is why it gets me interested. How do others get into intimacy?
I agree that socializing and intimacy is very different now with the new social media. People do not interact face-to-face with each other as much as they used to. My constructive criticism for the blog is that it was a very difficult blog to read, as the sentences were long and run-on.
ReplyDeleteI think that the issue with meeting somebody over the internet is that the relationship is founded upon a perception that doesn't usually turn out to be true. It interesting that it is marketed towards people with busy lives, but I would imagine that with internet dating it is harder to weed out poor possibilities because everybody is displaying only their positive sides. Still, interesting topic nevertheless.
ReplyDeleteI don't think intimacy has change much at all over time. It has stayed and worked pretty much the same. Now how we meet people may have changed or evolved but that's a different matter.
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